Monday, September 27, 2010

The Big Boy Bed

Last Thursday, following Snoodie's fourth attempt to launch himself headfirst from the confines of his crib, David and I decided it was finally time for the move to the BIG BOY BED.

And thus, the horror began.


Having consulted a series of internet-based expert advisors on how to proceed with such an epic undertaking, I decided to reveal the Big Boy Bed early in the afternoon to get Snoodie used to the concept. I brought him to his room and began clapping my hands and smiling like a demented used car salesman as I showed him his new digs:

"Snoodie is such a big boy that he gets to sleep in his very own Big! Boy! Bed! It's gonna be awesome!" I explained.

Snoodie seemed completely down with the program. He jumped onto the bed, rolled about enthusiastically, and even pulled Blue Bear close for some hard core snuggle time. I was pretty sure we were in business!


As evening fell (once again on orders from the internet-based advice givers) I ran through our bedtime ritual with military precision. After bath and books and cuddles I placed El Snoodo gently down upon the Big Boy Bed. After dimming the lights, I looked my son deep in the eyes and carefully yet lovingly explained,

"This is your first night in your Big Boy Bed! Now it is time for night-night and I want you to close your eyes and go to sleep. Mommy loves you."

Snoodie gazed back at me as if to say,

"I understand completely, mother darling. I guess this means I'll see you in the morning."

I shut the door and smiled to myself, secure in my stone-cold mothering badass-i-tude...


...at which point I was almost knocked over by Snoodie speeding past me on his way out the door, laughing hysterically. He reached the living room and in his jubilation began performing an elaborate "happy feet" dance for David and my sister, who were sitting on the couch. The gleam in his eyes told me that I had made a MAJOR miscalculation.

The Snood was drunk with freedom; the newfound ability to escape the confines of his bed appeared to be coursing through his veins like a drug.

And Snoodie wanted more.


Summoning my inner Supernanny, I blank-faced the Snood's increasingly complex footwork and hauled him back to bed without comment. I looked him in the eyes, delivered a firm "Night-Night!" and turned to leave.

Snoodie bested his time to the living room on his second escape and was spinning in manic circles by the time I scooped him up to put him back in bed again.

And again.

And again.

CUT TO: 2 and 1/2 hours later.

Snood and I are still at it. Snood's exuberant escapes have become decidedly less exuberant over the course of the night, but still he manages to go through the motions.

Like any good addict, the Snood seems determined to recapture the magic of that first high. He staggers out of bed again and again towards the living room, the ritual becoming increasingly desperate with each repetition.

But still it goes on.

Towards the end of the evening, Snoodie was limping forth from his room, too tired to even walk a straight line. As I watched this sorry display I turned to David and said,

"You realize that in the movie version of this we are the bad guys, right? The kid who just won't go down and keeps on staggering to his feet no matter what the big guys throw at him - HE'S THE HERO!"

David took this in with a concerned look on his face before my sister (who had observed our war of the wills from start to finish) chimed in,

"Not if the movie is Fatal Attraction. Then it's like when you keep thinking Glenn Close is dead, but instead she keeps on rearing back up and trying to kill Michael Douglas and his wife. In that case, you two AREN'T the villains, you're just the terrified victims of a sociopath's unrelenting rampage."

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That made us feel better.

By 10pm Snoodie had given up and fallen asleep in bed, clutching Blue Bear lovingly and even snoring quietly. Since then, David and I have attempted to up our game each night in hopes of making the whole undertaking less fraught, but the Snood has matched us at every turn with his seemingly unlimited tactical skill.

When we added a doorknob cover so that he could no longer open the door, the Snood began crashing objects in his room with extreme prejudice until we got worried and opened the door to check on him. When we switched over to a baby gate at the doorway he started pitching Blue Bear into the hallway and then pathetically begging for his return.

I gotta hand it to the kid - he's good.

Still, we've managed to stay the course. Two days into the Big Boy Bed transition I was literally begging David to let me move Snoodie back to the crib, but my husband held firm:

"There's too much blood in the sand at this point," he explained. "We've got no choice but to hold the beach."

And (husband's favorite phrase alert!) he was right. The nights since have gotten easier. We're getting our time from bedtime to sleep down by about an hour each night. And today for the first time I am proud to announce that Snoodie NAPPED IN THE BIG BOY BED!!!

Ah, Sweet Victory!

Sure, it took two-and-a-half hours, but who's counting?

5 comments:

  1. I was laughing while I read this, but crying on the inside for you and your husband -- and for future me who will surely deal with a similar situation in the next few months.

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  2. Good luck! It is horrible but somewhat hilarious at least. As we speak the Snood is fast asleep on the floor of his room wedged up against the door so that I can't open it. It is progress from running around the living room I suppose...

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  3. Good for you staying the course. Somehow my daughter didn't realize she could escape her toddler bed for at least a month. Even in the morning, she'd stand up wailing for me to come get her. It must have had a force field option I didn't see on the packaging.

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  4. I have conducted an extremely scientific poll which consisted of me asking six people I know with children, "So what is the deal with this horrific Big Boy Bed thing?" Based on this crack research I have concluded that Big Boy Bed problems seem to be a larger problem for the male of the species. The "force field" of which Breanna speaks turned up only for poll-ees whose children were female. Go figure.

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  5. My son was able to skillfully and safely toss himself out of his crib when he was one year old. He was really fast at this maneuver, too! The pediatrician ultimately advised us to making some kind of screen to fit over the crib. This same son fell from a low tree branch, indicated his shoulder was hurting. Took him to the dr's office where he proceeded to swing from the little shelf beneath a phone, so we took him home. Days later, noticing he had developed a visible bump on his collarbone, we got x-rays done. The collarbone had been cracked, but that must have been a minor irritation to my son. Many, many years ago.

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