Thursday, February 28, 2013

Boys at Play




I have always been a vocal advocate for having closely-spaced kids.

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Admittedly this is largely because, having done this myself, I'm anxious to get other people to join me in my misery.

But it's also at least in part because I have long believed in the simple theory that having closely spaced siblings means that, while the first years may be really tough, the unimpeachable payoff will be that THE KIDS WILL ONE DAY GO OFF AND PLAY TOGETHER -- LEAVING YOU ALONE FOR LONG PERIODS OF TIME!!!


As my boys have now reached the ages of two and four, the time has come to put this theory to the test! I've put in my years of diaper changing! I've done more nighttime feedings that I care to mention! I've made so many grilled cheese sandwiches I've lost count! 

Now I'm ready for the part where I linger in a warm bath as my children teach each other to play chess quietly in the living room.

Unfortunately that's not at all what it is really like.

Here are the games that my sons have actually engaged in together just this week:

  • Let's Experiment With the Grill!
  • I Can Jump Off the Top of the Playhouse - Can You?
  • Why Is All the Dirt in the Garden? Let's Bring Some Into Our Beds!
  • Clothes in the Hamper? I Say Clothes in the Oven!!!
  • How Hard Can I Hit You on the Head with This Board?


It's as if my boys are on a mission to invent the most dangerous, destructive, and/or messy pastimes possible.

Yesterday I was sitting inside trying to explain to my 13-month-old why we don't eat from the garbage when I looked out to watch my two sons as they played together in the back yard. 

Here is a rough transcript of their interaction:

SON #1: Let's play in the sandbox!
SON #2: OKAY!!!!!
SON #1: That was fun for two minutes! Now what?
SON #2: Let's throw sand out of the sandbox as fast as we can!
SON #1: Awesome!
SON #2: That was cool for 76 seconds. What's next?
SON #1: Hmmm...how about we pour the sand down the slide? I bet that would look neat!
SON #2: You were right! That did really look neat. BUT NOW I'M BORED!!!
SON #1: OK, what about if you go down the slide while I pour sand underneath you?
SON #2: Great idea!
SON #1: Go!
SON #2: Whee!!!
(Laughter of both sons swells and then fades away)
SON #1: That was fun!
SON #2: Yeah that was GREAT!
SON #1: OK, now you slide down the slide and I'll pour sand on your head and you fly by me!
SON #1: Will do!
SON #2:  That was great! 
(Laughter of both sons again swells and then fades away)
SON #1: NOW YOU SLIDE DOWN AND I'LL THROW AN ENTIRE BUCKET OF SAND IN YOUR FACE!
SON #2: Really?
SON #1: C'MON - IT'LL BE GREAT!
SON #2: Okay!
(After a moment)
SON #2: Owwwwwwwww! MY EYES!!!!!!!! MOMMMY!!!!!!
(cut to inter-brother punching and wailing)

DURATION OF INTERACTION: 4.37 MINUTES


It would seem that I might have to go back to the drawing board on my "closely-spaced-siblings-leads-to-quiet-household-playtime-harmony" theory.

Who knew?